Topic > Don't Ask Me Questions by Marina Budhos - 868

Becoming an accepted member of a country you don't feel is your home is an immaculate task that can sometimes be intangible. For Nadira and her family this task turned out to be more difficult than they initially thought. For this Bangladeshi family, obtaining citizenship was problematic, but after the 9/11 terrorist attacks it seemed almost impossible. Immigrants come to the United States for many reasons, including religious freedom, a fresh start, or to pursue the American dream. Even though they didn't feel at home, Nadira, her sister and her parents wanted to stay here because returning to Bangladesh was not the best solution for them. How did Nadira find the courage to fight for her family's acceptance in such a brutal world? It's hard enough to visit another country for an extended period of time, let alone want to live there permanently. After years of struggling with expired visas and passports, and being astute about paying for needed services, the Bangladeshi family thought seeking asylum in Canada would be best for them, especially since their eldest daughter, Aisha, was looking for a good college to study medicine. . “You forget. You forget that you don't really exist here, that this isn't really your home. One day, we said, we would sort out the paperwork. Meanwhile we continued. Happens. All the time” (Budhos, p. 8). Their “home” seemed even more foreign after 9/11. Being Muslims, they knew they would not be accepted. They felt threatened and trapped, so the plan to escape to Canada began, but tragedy struck when they discovered that Canada was “full” and could not accommodate any more immigrants. With their dreams shattered and their father in prison, Nadira and Aisha return... to the center of the paper... she has made herself known: an illegal 14-year-old Bangladeshi girl fighting for her family's freedom. issues of acceptance and privilege are ominously present in this novel as they are in the real world. Nadira had the courage to go out and explore the possibilities of freeing Abba, putting her personal needs aside. He was breathing. She took deep breaths and fought diversity issues because that's what she was told would get her through difficult situations. After receiving a new residency application, the family knows they have been accepted and even uses the word “home.” “And let's do as he taught us. We hold our breath, then let it out, little by little. Let's move forward, into the unknown. Go” (Budhos, p. 159). So much remains unknown, but her family and community accept Nadira and, most importantly, she accepts herself.