Both Buddha and Gyatso have a common understanding that there are many ways to take refuge. Gyatso provides several examples, such as: taking refuge in our parents, peer group, and individuals. For example, I'm still taking refuge in my parents. I rely totally on my mother. Maybe because first of all she is my mother, and then I am finding in her that support that I can't find in anyone else. I don't know what to call this connection... My mom is my biggest supporter, my biggest fan and my best friend. However, I know that one day I won't have that kind of support anymore. Gyatso states that as people age, they find that their parents can no longer eliminate their sense of loneliness and that they appear to be the agents of our suffering. I don't agree with this point because not all adult people have misunderstandings with their parents. In contrast, some adult children are even more worried about their moms and dads. They show more love, care and respect now than when they were young. Furthermore, it is not true that our parents are the cause of all suffering, misfortunes and problems. In my opinion, we make ourselves suffer, sophisticate and complicate our lives. Gyatso says that as people get older they start to have a